There’s no way to understand girls. I gave up trying to understand them. I’m writing for you my buddy the Simpleguy because I don’t know why you feel so miserable after you broke up with your girlfriend even if that’s much time back. Depressed as you’re, writing you’re alone and cut off everywhere. If only the world could value your heart’s kindness, you would be the richest person on earth. Yeah even beat Mr.Gate$
Ok, I’ll tell you my story and why I think and feel so : there’s no way to understand girls. In hope I would stand a chance in making you feel better. You know how mystery of a person I’m with personal affairs so I think that’s a good reason to tell you mine : to get you better.
I’m single and I know my girlfriend won’t read my WishWe because I broke up weeks back. I collect ex longer than I stay with a girl. During the past 4 years, I went out with 3 girls. Everytime trying to understand them : what would she want from me as her guy? For the first, I thought she wanted a cool guy. I got myself to be the coolest person on earth, I think I overdid and we broke. I was no more her type. Then I met a girl, I thought she would no more go out with a guy like me : kidding everywhere, being shy and reckless. Infact she was craving to do so. Another broke up.
Then since one year upto some weeks back, I was going out with a girl. So I said to myself, OK now I’ll try my best to understand my girlfriend. She was a good and decent girl and I thought she wanted a good guy. I did all on earth to be a good person, a good and loving guy. I would be there when she needed me on MSN Messenger, I would send her the most loving and sincere words by mail. I would make sure to be here when she needed it. That really depressed me because I tried everything to understand her but couldn’t. Then some weeks back, I could no more. I pull the plug off and told her I’m going away.
I won’t no more try to understand girls, what they want from a guy.
Sometimes I also feel lonely, hoping that I shouldn’t have done that very thing that was behind our break. Then I don’t know what? What girls really want from us guy.
You know the people I hang around with, telling me to go out with the next girl I meet because life is so short, everything can happen and I have to live every single moment of it. But then I can’t. I won’t feel like cheating a girl or hurt her feelings. In fact with every girl I went out : I tried that very best : being sincere, being the one I think she would want me to be. In fact everytime I changed myself in accordance to what she would be wanting from me. Just to make her happy. I won’t feel human if I did something that would make her cry. With my ex, I think I begged her so many times because I knew I hurt her feelings.
Really I don’t know what to tell you, you know I did tell you all and everything apart my own story. Really to make you feel better because as for me I feel better now because I gave up trying to understand girls.
You’re really a buddy, don’t lose yourself. Girls should be guys to really know who we are : boys. That’s why there’s no way to understand them and why I gave up trying to understand them.
Your friend,
Hans.
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Thanks man .. Thanks
I understand u did that for me ..
Thanks buddy .. Thanks
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Hmmm .. well life goes on .. right ??
“Girls - the magical creation of god ; to be cared ; loved and respected ”
“If you truly love someone, set her free..
If she comes back, she’ll be yours forever, If she doesn’t, then pray for her being happy ; smiling and fine forever..”
Yeah .. my favorite quotes on Hi5 ..
I’ve been focalizing to them for a some time ..
:dizzy:
Bon .. don’t wooooooorry about me Hans ..
Am fine ..
** Thinking about ur case, i should start to woooorry
Thanks man ..
T H A N K S …
hey anoop it’s you how write this post?? it’s true that we will never understand girls. We always make things to make them happy and as return we get a big “bye bye”.
:dizzy: 
For me, girl is like snake they are never satisfy with what we do for them. i’ve also write a post on my site about girls think i’ve got some answers from my phycholog :dizzy:
That’s why they are called girls…just impossible to understand.
And never get into the false sense of “Oh I know what she wants and understand her perfectly”..
just to tell what a girl could think (i’m a girl, if you haven’t already understood it
).
I can’t tell you if “girls” really want something from a boy. Sometimes, things just don’t feel right, you know ? But it’s the same for boys. My ex broke with me because i couldn’t have fun at a party when I was there !!!!! even if I tried all i could to be more “funny” ! See, sometimes, it’s hard for girls to understand boys too. It’s a cliche, i know, but it is said that we don’t think the same way.
The only thing i can tell you Hans (and anoop too, so sorry for you) is :
BE YOURSELF with a girl. If your girl loves you that way, don’t change ! And if she doesn’t, maybe you are not supposed to be together ? And sometimes… maybe it just wasn’t the right time…
I hope i helped you, guys
and that you will be ok .
i want to join in the discussion but i know not what to write for i’ve already given up on trying to understand girl!
i’ve broken up with mine a couple of weeks ago and now i’m enjoying being single again!
any relationship demands lots of time and patience - zat’s wat i’ve realised n so, i’ve given up on it for i don’t ve time and my patience has run out…
though we throw so much shit at girls saying they r bitches n so hard to understand, the girls as well see us as 100% assholes who are just not trying to understand them or to be there for them…
the problem is that the boys n girls have different ways of seeing the world and of defining what must really go into a relationship…that by itself is very frustrating and can be a pain rite up there in our ass!
so, in the end, it’s all about time, patience and lots of compromise! n these are things that some of us, boys or girls, just can’t cope with for hey, we can always take the easy way out, i.e. break up and just connect with someone else…
zat’s how life is unfortunately and we have to deal with it…grow and learn from it and try not to repeat similar mistakes….
another important thing apart from all this is communication…if rite from the start we have all the cards on the table and we know each other well, these trivial misundertandings that lead to the final break-up may be avoided…communication is important as well especially a honest n sincere one (of course, there are always exceptionz! :P)
having said this, getting into a relationship is like an investment! it’s something we need to nurture day in day out! otherwise, we will not reap the interest and we will end up bankrupt! and each time, we face an obstacle, we should see it as a positive way of getting to undersand each other rather than another excuse to break up!
of course, being single has its benefits as well and being a loner, i don’t mind it for after all i’m the dude who coined and defined the word loner!
so, yeah, i feel for your friend Hans for i’ve been there as well! the best thing is just to move on and learn from it…..
shit, i’ve written way too much here!
no more time for me to blog! damn!!!
Wow, looks like I’m the only one here who hasn’t broken up with my girlfriend. I completely understand the points (or rather point) you guys are trying to convey: girls are not like us, and being different, we guys, can’t understand them. More or less, right?
Come on guys, get a grip on yourselves. My two best friends are girls and my girlfriend is, well, a girl too! How is it possible for me to get the ball rolling while you’re apparently unable to?
Sometimes it is hard to comprehend a girl totally, I admit but I find that with some questions here and there, they will tell you about it and all comes out. They tend to take seemingly silly things (from a guy’s perspective at least) in a primordial manner but that’s how they are. Really, if girls were the same as guys, wouldn’t life be shit?
Reading the comments, it looks like I’m the odd one out (makes me feel sort of proud you know) but you have to connect with the person first and foremost. This takes some time but once you get along well and it works between the two of you, a relationship with a girl is pure magic. As you all mentioned, girls are different. Cooler still, they have a girl’s view on things which always comes in handy. Seeing the world in a different way, girls often come up with brilliant ideas and they are extremely supportive. Really.
I suppose the magic touch a guy must have (I’m very vain) is to be able to listen. Girls, I personally think, are kind of secretive. More than guys anyway. And when gals have someone to talk to, they fire on: whether we’re dealing with problems, rants or homework, it’s always important to listen and to try and make the connection. Coming to think of it, I suppose the connection is made when you truly know the girl you’re dealing with.
Girls are very cool. Obviously there are some hopeless cases too but for the two friends I’m talking about, it’s just a divine gift that I have. They understand me completely and I suppose I understand them as well. My girlfriend, well I’m in love and she’s in love, what can I ask for more, really?
Good luck! Maybe I am too full of myself.
P.S. Hans hope you won’t mind a bit of publicity for my blog here but you may want to read some of my blog posts related to girls here, here and here
[...] It’s all happening over at fellow Mauritian blogger, Hans, on this post. Here’s an appetiser: You know the people I hang around with, telling me to go out with the next girl I meet because life is so short, everything can happen and I have to live every single moment of it. But then I can’t. I won’t feel like cheating a girl or hurt her feelings. In fact with every girl I went out : I tried that very best : being sincere, being the one I think she would want me to be. In fact everytime I changed myself in accordance to what she would be wanting from me. Just to make her happy. I won’t feel human if I did something that would make her cry. With my ex, I think I begged her so many times because I knew I hurt her feelings. [...]
Another thing i forgot to say : you say “girls are difficult to understand”. But like boys, each girl is different. I know you knew it but i find important to tell it. And some girls are much more easier to understand maybe because we also can listen to “our” boy, as well as khalil said about boys listening girls. khalil said it was all about compromise and it’s exactly that.
So don’t give up on finding the right one, boys !
@waz : yeah, exactlly !!! COMMUNICATION ! talk out problems before it gets too difficult to solve !
@ khalil a:
i’ve read your entries when u’ve posted them…
yeah, i’ve girls as best friends too but the best friend and the girlfriend scenarios are way different!
well depends…sometimes your girlfriend is your best friend!
anywayz, all this is very subjective and highly dependent on our own experience and how we deal with it…
and i think you have come up with really good points about girls n their views!!! i actually like being around girls for i tend to find guys boring in how they approach life…
but i don’t believe in the magic touch…nor that there is a mathematical equation that will get every babes to fall for us…
it’s just about being able to connect and being always 110% into the relationship….
it’s about both sides being matured about it…
n maybe u have achieved it thus explaining y u r still with your gf…
as for me, i’ve other commitments rite now n i can’t afford having a gf…which is bullshit in some ways but zat’s me n i don’t mind being me
I agree with nym on the fact that you guys should be yourself with a girl.Never try to change only to please someone.In the end it would just blow u in the face.
For sure girls and guys don’t speak the same language.No wonder John Gray has so much success with his book,”Men are from Mars,women are from Venus”.
We always hear u guys say,”ohh girls are so complicated!i can’t understand ‘em…ect”
We are not perfect.We can make a fuss out of nothing.But often guys stop to what they hear and see.Sometimes reading in between the lines can make u guys,notice things that could help to understand girls.
And yes,compromise is very important in a relationship because it’s a fact that girls and guys have different emotional needs.
Oops.Sorry Hans.I clicked the “Stick it” button twice and the first time I forgot to fill in my name
Lol I needed to see this post about three months ago, broke up at that time, and thought the world was over. lol at that time my musical “répertoire” was mostly dark and metallic
well, life goes on and i’ve realised what was the actual problem. communication.
in fact, i think to really be comfortable with a girl, we need to be able to tell her everything. not even to tell it, but to feel you can. (Okay, if not everything, at least 93% :)) If you can do that, there’s no reason for a great unsolvable problem to occur.
Also, i found out after some time i am more comfortable with my girl friends than i was with my ex girlfriend. so I totally agree with you waz.
well finally i’d like to say good luck anoop, don’t desperate!
Lol and @ Angele yeah but we guys are just not used to reading in between the lines, that’s one of the problems actually. and consequently there is mutual incomprehension, and it gets worse and worse everyday (Personal exp.) we should learn to do that actually.
Lol @ Nym, reached the same conclusion. If she does not like me the way i am, well just to bad heh! actually thats why we broke up…
geeeeeeeeeeeeez, souvenirs, that’s troublesome,,,,,,,
@ angele:
“you guys should be yourself with a girl.” - zis is so true bcoz then it is such a waste of time being in the relationship and if we arenot who we r then there is no justification for anything to be…
“Sometimes reading in between the lines can make u guys,notice things that could help to understand girls.” - zis + what we call non-verbal communication signs (i.e. body language) are very helpful…so i totally agree….but, like kyushiro said, we are not that good at it…i guess it comes with practice…
@ everybody
thanks everybody for taking part in the discussion. Hope you won’t mind if I’m not in - the one who started this. Ok, I’ll wear my flak jacket, double protection please
and pull that one line and run as fast as I can :
“maybe that’s part of what makes life so interesting and love so deep — that finding someone we understand is not easy”
:sly: thanks so much everybody for all those thoughts and emotions but actually I’m not the kind who understand people emotions. Opinions yes - I’m gonna fight with you but emotions I just don’t know what to reply to them.
@ khalil
sure dude, feel free to do so. Share it out my friend. :aww:
@everyone
yo dudes, just missed this post out…
just thinkin of how great love can be….wining the world is nofin compared to winning ur love’s heart…
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is that so hard to understand!!!
=(
but y she didnt???(my gf)
i gave her all my trust , my love,,,was always sincere…and still, we did broke…
i tried to be myself…, i was myself, n still we did broke up..
alkin bout communication…shit i tried to understand her everytime…always txt her on her mobile, may it be at noon or midnight…..so guys wats now, is there a lack of communication or ju st tht my COMMUNICATION got network problems??? :no: LoLzz
n yet she didnt hav any pity 4 me to break my heart in da middle of the night n left me bleeding,alone in the dark….hey sweetheart,at least let me sleep =O LoLzz
“PSYCOLOGIE FEMMES”
i’m sorry for you vekky :no: , but sometimes, it just not the right time ! And like we said before, if you were yourself with her and sh don’t want to be with you anymore, it’s that maybe you were not meant to be together ?
hey vek. I understand how you feel. and the best thing to do is to forget her, as Nym said, its perhaps just that you were not meant to be together. lol unfortunately we are not in the same class this year, else i would have shown you my song (lol yeah i started composing by the way :yes: ) about breaking up…
I know its damned hard for you but be strong dude.
Lol anyway bye everyone, see ya, i am switching off for about 2 months now. (my exams start on tuesday…….. geeeeeeeez…)
2 everyone…
thx frnds dnt worry am ok now… n thx 4 ur advice…ya guess its not the rite time,but wait,i will continue to try anyways.. LoLzzz =D
yea i tried all my best to keep her with me but when she said that shes ny happy with me,i just gave up….n then started crying.. =(
:X :X :X :X :X :X
hey wat am doin here???xams r here…i’ll better get back revising LoLzz
catch ya up later frnds,…gudluck to ya alll…l8er.
Ena lexamens zot p koz fam ici !!!!
:sly: :sly:
sorry about those words in the previous post. I was just jokin.. Well you guys have experienced life I guess, by becoming victims of those filthy situations!!! Hans is completely right: It’s difficult to understand girls.
Last year, my friend(let’s call him w and his gf z)… w has happy with his gf, going out to resto, cine, caudan blablabla and after 4 months I asked about z, he said his gf told him to end up… my poor friend was completely shattered
Another friend of mine, met a gurl in a wedding. both exchanged e-mail addresses.. forwarded pictures, poems, interesting quotes and the gurl said after a few months “Forget ME!!”
One advice I can give u:
Get control over your gf and don’t show your deep affection for her.. Never plead! just be yourself! if you sms and she doesnt reply piss off, she’ll come back to you on her own and will say sorry. If she’s off mood, piss off again and later things will be settled on their own!!!
Get one thing in your mind:
What’s my aim in having her as gf??? Don’t keep on spending your valuable time with her. Spare some for your own life (whether u liked playing ps2, teasing your bro/mum/dad) Think of this new situation like a new lifestyle:
I have my family! will she offer her back up completely? Nope :no: divide your emotions into several fragments:
75% my family 12.5% my friends 12.5% my gf….
If she pisses you off, piss her off too!!!!!
Cheers,
Yasir
A gurl only wants attention, care and a bit of love frm u guys.gurls are not impossible to understand,give them time,they will return to u in a few days =P
@ everyone [ including Deepa ]
WOW !!! =O =O
I didn’t know that sooooo much discussion had taken place here :sweat: :sweat:
well well .. unlike all boys .. I say that one can understand girls ..
girls - the magnificent creation of god : to be cared ; loved and respected ..
my philosophy :
well .. nevermind ..
@ deepa
welcome to blogosquare :yes: :yes: .. and thanks for having added up someting here .. :sweat: [ nah .. nothing .. nevermind .. ] :sweat: :sweat:
well .. take care everyone ..
@ hans :
I’ve changed all my graphics bro
thanks =)
See ya ..
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@ szekwun :
can’t really understand ya .. so can’t really help ya .. [:s]
I think you are trying too hard to please them and forgetting to be who you really are. Be yourself, and if they don’t like that then they are not for you anyway. Sooner or later you will find someone who wants you not the imaginary person you think they want.
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I don’t know if I’ve to Thank you or something… she makes me die under her legs I did every things she want but, no way
she treating me like a donky and all the time could’nt understand her and I had real problem with her so a break up after a big fight left my hand with a scar.. but I still love her and can’t move on what F….